Wednesday, March 30, 2011
hi, lets discuss on dealing with Anger
what we do is confuse ourself and mix people and their -ve qualities.
Seperate people from their qualities and love people unconditionally.
Lets work on dealing with the -ve quality.
Also, understand, that by you getting angry, -ve qualities may not always improve.
Why people get angry is they have high expectations from others, high standards of performance and when this does not match, they flare up.
Lets see how we can manage anger, now: Some tips..
Stop REACTING .....! Instead; PAUSE - THINK & then ACT (PROACTIVE)
List five things which make you angry, be specific, then rank them from 1 to 5, using 1 for the one which angers you most.Next to each one write down the main reason why it makes you angry. (People, Situations, Events basically the Trigger )
Finally, write down next to each one what you do when you are angry in such a situation.
Include your physical responses as well as what you do and say, discuss your list with your partner.
Now find a near and dear one with whom you may sit and work, to see if you can think of an alternative assertive response to each situation, or when ever the
Trigger is pulled.. what can you do instead
what we do is confuse ourself and mix people and their -ve qualities.
Seperate people from their qualities and love people unconditionally.
Lets work on dealing with the -ve quality.
Also, understand, that by you getting angry, -ve qualities may not always improve.
Why people get angry is they have high expectations from others, high standards of performance and when this does not match, they flare up.
Lets see how we can manage anger, now: Some tips..
Stop REACTING .....! Instead; PAUSE - THINK & then ACT (PROACTIVE)
List five things which make you angry, be specific, then rank them from 1 to 5, using 1 for the one which angers you most.Next to each one write down the main reason why it makes you angry. (People, Situations, Events basically the Trigger )
Finally, write down next to each one what you do when you are angry in such a situation.
Include your physical responses as well as what you do and say, discuss your list with your partner.
Now find a near and dear one with whom you may sit and work, to see if you can think of an alternative assertive response to each situation, or when ever the
Trigger is pulled.. what can you do instead
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